Discussion Questions
1. What is the noise Aiden experiences? Is he the only one who hears it? How is his perception of “noise” unsettling, and what are some of the instinctive behaviors and learned skills he uses to regain his composure?
2. Which of the novel’s characters prove themselves as champions for Aiden’s self-advocacy and confidence? How do they show this throughout the football season? Which characters are adversarial to Aiden in these areas, and how do you know?
3. Consider how Aiden views his brother, Brandon. At the beginning of the novel, he thinks about all the negativity and noise jostling around in his own brain, but how “Brandon never hears it. All he sees in me are the bright spots.” (Chapter one) Discuss other examples of the ways Brandon helps Aiden see his own bright spots. Consider creating a list of your own bright spots to remind yourself on tough days.
4. Consider Aiden’s and Isabella’s Life Skills class. In what ways does Aiden’s opinion of the class change over the course of the football season? How do Ms. Findley’s assignments and exercises play a role in his progression?
5. Discuss the ways in which Aiden notices how Isabella is different from other classmates, even ones he’s known for years. Which of Isabella’s characteristics and behaviors prove comforting to Aiden? How do Isabella and Aiden give support to each other?
6. On numerous occasions in the novel, Aiden makes mental “notes” to himself. He applies these notes in a variety of ways to build understanding of the world around him. Discuss two or three notes that help the reader understand Aiden’s thoughts or emotions in a particular moment or situation.
7. Consider the team, especially Gregory, Carter, Reg, Bernard, and Louis: How are these characters different from one another? Aiden observes that “something about their behavior seems as though it is teetering somewhere between friendship and rivalry. Somewhere between friend and foe.” (Chapter five) Provide examples of how his teammates align with this observation, and discuss how you think that plays out in the aftermath of “the incident.”
8. After an encounter with a local police officer, Brandon says to Aiden, “‘we important to someone who’s important to them,’” making them important. (Chapter four) How does that sentiment repeat or contradict itself later in the novel? Consider the several interactions Aiden and Brandon have with police officers in the book. Did police officers treat Brandon and Aiden differently depending on the circumstances? Discuss as a class why you believe this is true or false.
9. Without including the title of chapter six as “The Incident,” identify different elements of Aiden’s descriptions of the team and Randy’s diner that lets readers know tension was high and Aiden was feeling “off” even before the fight.
10. How does Aiden react to Brandon’s new position of vulnerability after the arrest? Can you identify an event that signaled a shift in the balance of supporting roles between the two brothers? Discuss how a shift of their roles was meaningful for their relationship.
11. One of Aiden’s Life Skills projects is to interview, get, and maintain an after-school job. He’s apprehensive and realizes that his job at the library will be the first time someone will be placing “an obligation in front of me without some expectation of needing to assist me with it.” (Chapter ten) How does this expectation make Aiden feel? Have you ever had a job, and if so, how did you feel during the application and interview process? How did you feel when you first started? If you haven’t had a job yet, what are you most nervous or excited about?
12. How does the theme of self-advocacy and empowerment change for characters in the book? Choose a character and explain how they use their empowerment to resist opposition and support other characters.
13. How does Aiden allow peer pressure, or his perceived expectations of others, to play a role in his decisions?
14. How does the author address racial bias and racial violence in different scenarios? How do students, parents, and police respond to racism throughout the novel? How, if at all, does racial bias play a part in the actions of Brandon’s teammates? His coaches?
15. What did Aiden’s parents mean by teaching their sons “comply” and “get home alive”? (Chapter four) How does Aiden question his parents’ view of why they chose to live in their specific neighborhood? Discuss whether you agree or disagree with his parents’ reasoning.
16. Why does Aiden think Brandon’s situation is his fault? How would you advise Aiden to view the situation?
17. Consider Brandon’s situation after the arrest. Discuss the scope and slant the news media and Brandon’s peers on social media have on his situation. Debate if the media outlets are focused on providing information about the incident in a fair and unbiased manner. How would you have approached discussion about the events?
18. While leading Brandon to have a conversation with Ms. Findley, Aiden defends the Life Skills class, stating “‘it is not just for troubled kids, either. It is for life skills. It is for helping you deal with all the crap that life throws at you.’” (Chapter nineteen) How does the conversation help Brandon voice, and later come to terms with, his deeper feelings about his identity at school and in life? How does Brandon’s admission impact his relationship with Aiden?
19. Discuss how characters in the book handle their fears and mistakes. Discuss whether you think some mistakes are beyond forgiveness and redemption.
Extension Activities
1. Consider the themes of friendship, loyalty, social responsibility, redemption, and empathy. Have students select individual characters they feel represent one or more of the themes. Have them discuss their choices in small groups.
2. Have students write a letter to the author discussing how the book has helped them better understand how someone with autism may experience certain stimuli differently. Include a discussion of how they will seek to promote greater empathy and understanding of neurodivergent individuals in their community.
3. Have students research online professional and Olympic athletes diagnosed with autism and report what they learned about how these athletes continue to meet challenges successfully. Have students discuss new approaches or perspectives they intend to apply.
4. Have students research online several national or local organizations that support research and advocacy for autistic teens. Have them identify an organization or project they feel inspired to support.
5. Throughout the novel, Aiden’s mental “notes” pause the story to elaborate on Aiden’s thought processes and how things he’s learned or knows or wants to know fit into the moment. Ask students to write a descriptive essay or timeline about what they did yesterday. Once they have their schedule, have them create notes like Aiden’s in certain spots to insert further personality and perspective into their day. These notes can be questions they thought about when something happened, or quotes or songs they always think about when they go somewhere or talk to someone, etc.
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The Lovers, the Liars, and Me: Reading Guide
Guide written by Stephanie R. Toliver, an assistant professor of Literacy and Secondary Humanities at the University of Colorado, Boulder. Her scholarship centers the freedom dreams of Black youth and honors the historical legacy that Black imaginations have had and will have on activism and social change.
This guide has been provided by Simon & Schuster for classroom, library, and reading group use. It may be reproduced in its entirety or excerpted for these purposes.
Discussion Questions
1. The novel uses tarot card names to structure its chapters. What do the tarot cards’ traditional meanings reveal about the themes or turning points in the story? What effect does this framing device have on how you read Jaliya’s journey?
2. Jaliya struggles with thinking of herself as a tourist. It makes her feel like her claim to Jamaica is somehow less legitimate than her friends’. Her friend India pushes back, arguing that there is no single, correct way to be Jamaican. How do we decide we belong to a culture? Is it a birthplace, language, memory, family? Do you agree with India?
3. Passing a Starbucks on the way to her uncle’s house, Jaliya can’t quite name how she feels. There’s something unsettling about the intrusion of the familiar in a place that was supposed to feel like an escape from that world. What does this moment say about capitalism and Western expansion? Have you ever arrived somewhere meaningful and found it altered by outside forces in a way that complicated how you felt about it?
4. Jaliya moves fluidly between American English and patois, adjusting her register naturally depending on who she’s with. What does code-switching signal about power, belonging, and identity? What does it mean for Jaliya specifically, someone navigating multiple worlds at once?
5. Every time Jaliya feels anxious, she pulls at her fingers. Why do you think the author chose to make Jaliya’s inner life visible through this repeated physical detail? What does it add to our understanding of her?
6. Jaliya’s cousin Shevaughn tells her that being gay in Jamaica is treated as a stain on the family, connecting it to the country’s high density of churches. Jaliya sits with this and with her own privilege: as a bisexual woman, she can leave Jamaica and be fully herself in a way he cannot. What does this conversation emphasize about how location shapes queer experience? What does it mean that Jaliya and her cousin share an identity but face vastly different consequences for it?
7. India tells Jaliya that there are two different kinds of family: the one you’re born into, and the one you choose. What makes someone family? Is it obligation, love, history, or choice? Who has functioned as chosen family for Jaliya, and who has played that role in your own life?
8. Jaliya uses the phrase “blood is thicker than water,” meaning family loyalty comes first. India states that the original phrase means the opposite: the bonds we choose run deeper than the ones we’re born into. (Chapter 25) How does learning India’s interpretation change how you understand the phrase?
9. Jaliya spends much of the novel searching for the mother who left her. But the text quietly asks readers to notice that she has been mothered all along by her father, teachers, friends’ mothers, and her auntie Mary. Othermothering, rooted in Black feminist and womanist traditions, names this shared labor of nurturing that extends beyond biological motherhood. Who has mothered Jaliya across the novel? What is the novel ultimately saying about what motherhood is?
10. In the record shop, Jaliya pins her tarot cards among a wall of strangers’ Polaroids, pairing each card with the photo that seems to fit it. She reflects that her mother can live on there, and so can she. A palimpsest is a surface where old writing has been partially erased and written over, but traces of what came before remain visible. In what ways is this wall at the store a palimpsest? In what ways is Jaliya herself one?
11. Jaliya and her best friend, Ketta, are inseparable at the start of the novel. Jaliya leans on Ketta in ways that suggest she doesn’t yet fully trust herself. But once Jaliya arrives in Jamaica, Ketta largely disappears from the story. What do you make of this shift? Is it a sign of Jaliya’s growth, a failure of friendship, or both? Explain your reasoning.
12. In her author’s note, the author identifies how compounding factors of identity including nationality, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, and religion are central to the book. Choose two or three characters and trace how their overlapping identities shape what they’re able to do, say, or survive. Where do you see power shifting based on who someone is?
13. At one point, Jaliya recognizes that she has been measuring her own worth against the people around her, making everyone else the standard for whether she matters. Where does this habit come from for Jaliya? What would it take to stop? Have you ever found yourself doing something similar? If so, how do you break away from this behavior or thought process?
14. Jaliya describes her father as someone whose natural warmth and positivity sometimes clashes with where she is emotionally. There are moments when she wants to stay in her grief rather than be pulled out of it. Is it ever necessary to protect a painful feeling rather than let someone lift you out of it? How do we honor where we are emotionally when the people who love us want to pull us somewhere else?
15. Jaliya’s cousin Shevaughn tells her that it’s easier for girls to be gay because their sexuality is often fetishized and treated as spectacle, while boys face a different and often more dangerous kind of hatred. Is being fetishized a form of safety? What’s the difference between being tolerated and being accepted? Consider Jaliya’s and Shevaughn’s differing yet connected experiences. What does each one’s experience reveal about the other’s??
16. Throughout her time in Jamaica, Jaliya is repeatedly marked as an outsider. She is whispered about at church, overcharged at the post office, and told to step back at the market so her Americanness doesn’t cost her friends a fair price. What does the novel suggest about how Americans are seen when they return to countries their families came from? How is Jaliya’s experience of being othered different from the typical story about American travelers abroad?
17. Near a breakthrough in her search, Jaliya decides not to tell her uncle what she’s doing. She reflects that involving adults always seems to bring her sense of agency to a halt. When adults try to help, what can they unintentionally take away? Is there a meaningful difference between intervening and supporting?
18. India observes that churches are holy, but that they always feel a little haunted to her. What do you think she means? What does the novel show us about what the church gives its characters and what it has cost them?
19. When Jaliya’s uncle confronts her, her cousin doesn’t intervene. He explains later that defending her would have put him at risk. Jaliya faces her uncle alone and tells him directly that there is nothing wrong with her and that she accepts herself even if he cannot. What does it cost Shevaughn to stay silent, and was he right to? How do you read Jaliya’s speech to her uncle: as disrespect, as courage, or as both? Explain your reasoning.
20. Near the end of the novel, Jaliya arrives at the decision that she will not argue with people who are committed to misunderstanding her. What does it take to reach that place, to stop trying to explain yourself to people who have already decided who you are? How has Jaliya changed from the person we met at the beginning of the book?
Extension Activities
1. Before or after reading, have students research the history and symbolism behind the colors of the Jamaican flag. Ask them to consider how those symbols connect to the novel’s themes of identity, pride, and belonging, and to think about what it means that Jamaica’s flag contains none of the colors most commonly associated with national flags around the world (red, white, blue). This can open into a broader conversation about how nations construct and communicate identity through symbols, and what those symbols include or leave out.
2. Using a physical or digital map, trace all the places Jaliya visits: Montego Bay, Fern Gully, Kingston, Ocho Rios, and any others mentioned in the text. For each location, have students note what happened there and what it meant to Jaliya. Ask students to consider what the geography of the novel tells us about her journey.
3. The novel moves across generations of Jamaican music, from Beres Hammond, Garnett Silk, Bob Marley and the Wailers, Dennis Brown, Gregory Isaacs, and Half Pint to Dexta Daps, Jada Kingdom, Aidonia, Teejay, and Shenseea. Have students listen to at least one track from two different artists, one from an earlier era and one contemporary. Ask them to reflect on what they notice about how the music sounds, what it’s about, and what it evokes, and to consider what the author might be saying by letting these generations share the same space in the novel.
4. Marcus Garvey, born in Jamaica, became one of the most influential Black political thinkers of the twentieth century. Have students research his life and ideas, particularly Pan-Africanism and the concept of Black self-determination, and connect what they find to the novel’s themes of identity, pride, and belonging.
5. Othermothering, rooted in Black feminist and womanist traditions, names the shared labor of nurturing that extends beyond biological motherhood. After discussing the concept with students, ask them to create an othermother map in which they place themselves at the center and branch out to name the people who have nurtured or shaped them, noting one specific thing each person gave them. Leave space for reflection on who surprised them and what it feels like to see that network laid out.
6. In the record shop scene, Jaliya creates a kind of living archive by pairing her tarot cards with strangers’ photos and letting different stories speak to each other across time. Ask students to bring in five to eight images, whether photos, clippings, or drawings, that represent different moments or people that have shaped them. Have them arrange the images together and annotate each with a word, phrase, or line from a song, poem, or the novel, then share one pairing that surprised them in the process.
All the Noise at Once: Reading Guide
Guide created by Damon L. Austin, a school librarian and library information consultant who has worked with public, academic, special, and school libraries. He currently serves on the Board of Trustees of the American Library in Paris.
This guide has been provided by Simon & Schuster for classroom, library, and reading group use. It may be reproduced in its entirety or excerpted for these purposes.